Dating - a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two persons with the aim of each assessing the others suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse.
Now let's clarify this "Dating" & "Going Out" are two different things. "Dating" is simply a way for us to get to know one another, NOW if we already know each other & or are in a relationship we are simply just "Going Out" to get some air, enjoy the environment and each others company.
As a male, you can take a female out on numerous occasions but 85.9% of the time it may not mean anything. If a female takes a male out, that male just may have his wedding vows down pact by the end of the night. Males may be more appreciative to good gestures from the opposite sex, because it may not be something that occurs too often, while females on the other hand can hear no to a date now but be out the house with someone else faster than you can turn off a Plies album. Think about it for a second, how many times have you seen a female on a "Social Network" state that she's bored, hungry, or simply needs something to do & before Father Time can even advance by 30 seconds you see 5-10 guys on her status with plan ideas. Five to ten dudes just signed themselves up for a chance to go on a "Date" & I can guarantee only two to three of them actually have a plan or idea of something to do. Now us males on the other hand, if we're bored or want something to do you know what we're doing? We're checking what "Netflix" online selection is looking like. If "Netflix" isn't looking too promising for us, it's "NBA 2k11" or "Call of Duty" until those Xbox controllers die.
You know what happens when it's time to actually go out though? You have to get dressed, look good, and be ready to impress. A male gets dressed; we'll probably throw on a nice pair of jeans or pants depending on where we're going, a polo, dress shirt, or maybe even a tee depending on the designer. When females get dressed to go out what do they wear? Leggings, tights, or a dress, we don't care which one she wears, we just know she has the potential to look sexy in it. The sad thing with males is, 98.9% of us ONLY think that far, but I'm part of the 1.1% that thinks further. What I'm about to tell you may be a shocker but the difference between what we wear out & what women wear out is simple, our outfits have POCKETS while theirs DON'T. Those tights she's wearing that seem to compliment her shape so well already fooled you into paying by default. As a male, we can go out in basketball shorts or sweats & even those have pockets for us so if you aren't used to it by now, don't complain just get used to paying. I know, I know females have purses & pocket books right? Well here's another secret about that. A females purse will only contain her cell phone, keys, makeup, mirror, brush, comb, wallet(which ONLY comes out to show her ID for drinks) & a bunch of miscellaneous stuff that have NOTHING to do with you or the night at hand. A females pocket book now is much smaller, and will only have 4-5 things which are her mirror, phone, brush, keys & ID. Don't be fooled by the big bags either, the bigger the bag the less stable she actually is or she barely sleeps at home. That's right; if her bag is too big she only sleeps at home 3 days of the week.
Facts are facts, females also have the biggest appetites when it's time to go out to eat & order a meal BUT that appetite always seems to diminish after she actually starts to eat the food. Females are adventurous on your money, think about it how many times have you been out with a female who ordered something with a name like "Lady of Liberty" or maybe something neither of you could pronounce. If she has to point to the menu for her order because she can't pronounce it, it's best you order for her. Women order things they have to ask questions about before & after they get the meal, while men practically order the same thing at every restaurant so we have an idea of what we're getting ourselves into. It could be a Thai restaurant; males will still proudly attempt to order a Thai burger & fries or just sit there & eat bread until it's time to go.
There's nothing wrong with the whole dating thing though, people just use it to their benefit & get it confused. I have a personal philosophy & theory on this, bear with me.
This one may seem crazy to females but I believe if you ask someone out somewhere your intentions are to pay. I have NO problem paying whenever I go out, because that's just how I am BUT if you decide to come from your catacombs to invite yourself out guess what? Those leggings should find some pockets. If we are simply enjoying each others company rather than dating or going out, then we should pretend we're from the Netherlands or Belgium & just go Dutch.
Going Dutch - each person participating in the activity pays for himself or herself, rather than any one person paying for anyone else, particularly in a restaurant bill.
Yeah that's right, If we're enjoying each others company with unsure motives then let's enjoy this bill together. Now if we're doing this on a daily basis, then we can also compromise & simply take turns paying for these "Dates". If you can only find yourself to hit someone up because you're bored you shall remain that way in my book. I know dudes who feel they only get contacted when a female wants to go out, and I try to explain this theory & it's simple.
Females who ONLY hit you up when they want to go out know TWO things...
- They're hungry.
- You want them.
Just in case you're confused about what the Top 3 Places females in New York will randomly hit you up about when they're bored or hungry, they are...
- Red Lobster.
Once again all my brothers out there just remember...
- Guys don't be afraid to say no if you don't want to go somewhere. Don't let your thirst overshadow your morals.
- Do NOT let the bored Females who pop up when they want something steer you away from the woman you actually want to go out with.
- If she only realizes that she has to go to the bathroom around the time that the bill should be arriving, drop her faster than Dwayne Wade dropped the ball with 6 seconds left on the clock in Game 4 against the Mavericks.
- If she LOVES a bottle of "Svedka" & Trey Songz "Ready" album, if you play your cards right you actually don't need to take her out.
This is how she should be dropped...Don't even look back bro...